Focusing on your illnesses isn't going to make you any better. A lot of my clients come to me with chronic illnesses. I'm no stranger to this, I had created my own set of challenges around my health. And this is the reason Fitness and Nutrition are part of my pillars. We don't talk about diets or going to the gym.
The reason why these are pillars is that most people have unplugged from their body. They are operating from habit, and these habits have become very destructive. Destroying their lives and in their bodies.
I want to dig deep into this to help you understand why focusing on your illnesses isn't helping, and what I mean by destructive habits. A lot of the times we unplug because we don't want to feel the feelings. So we distract from them. Emotional eating is a great example of a distracting habit. And partly because most people don’t even realize they are doing it.
You're distracting so often when you're feeling anxious, depressed, or stressed. Emotional eating doesn't have to be binge eating! It can be:
I want you to think about what the habits that you have developed around your stress, sadness, and depression are. Behaviors that distract so that you don't have to feel the feels. You've unplugged from your body, and now you're filling it with things that are poison.
It's easy enough to say “I don't emotionally eat.” That's because emotional eating is really hiding your emotions. It isn’t always like Bridget Jones crying over a pint of ice cream. More often than not, it is avoiding your emotions.
I want to show you how deep this goes, because it was me! SO many layers of habit that I had around my emotional eating!
So, I developed a habit of not wanting to go grocery shopping, because when I went grocery shopping I would fill the cart with things that weren't healthy...Oreos, ice cream, chips, dip. To Avoid this I created a habit of eating before I went. So that I wasn't compelled to buy the junk food. BUT I would know I wasn't going to buy junk food, so I created a habit of
“I'll just get that last junk food meal before I go. That way I won't feel compelled to buy any while I am there.” It could have been Mexican food, cheese dip and a chimichanga. Or Starbucks lattes were a big one for me. Full of sugar, calories, and s*** ! I would fill my body full of s*** ,so that I wouldn’t go to the grocery store and fill up the cart full of s***!
Think about that! All of those habits. But it doesn’t stop there. I would then take the food home and just stick it in the refrigerator. Then “well it's not prepared for me to cook, so…. therefore ordering out or hitting the drive through will be faster.” Because I also had a habit of letting myself get too hungry that I became hangry and could wait. ALL HABITS!
So what are the habits that I wanted to change immediately? I knew that I was ALWAYS emotional eating. It wasn't just a once-a-day, it was everything that I put in my mouth. It was created to distract from everything. And bite after bite I was poisoning my body.
I didn't know I was poisoning myself, because I had unplugged. I didn't care how my body felt because I didn't want to feel. I didn't want to physically or emotionally feel. So everything I put in my body was a poison. Because I was poisoning it through my crappy emotions and distracting behaviors.
And it landed me in an emergency surgery on Thanksgiving Day! Everything had to change and I had to get real with myself. What are the habits that I had developed around food that were created by my subconscious identity? How did I feel about my body? I hated it! There was nothing good about it. Even as a marathon runner in great physical health I hated my body.
I had to reprogram my beliefs about my body I had to start loving it again. I had to understand that it was worth saving. That I needed to pay attention to it. And looking at it with hatred wasn't doing me any good. On the contrary, it was only creating more chronic illness.
I had to step back I had to start looking at my body with compassion and love. Putting it as a priority! And the first exercise I did was to sit down and look at the habits that I had created that weren't honoring this beautiful body. And knowing that I had to start listening to it again.
So I decided to do something so uncomfortable for me that it took me a week to get up the guts. I sat down at the dinner table by myself without a phone, music, tv...no people... just me and my plate of food. I ate it and I listened to what my body was telling me. OMG, this was one of the hardest things! But what was it telling me? You have a brick in your gut because you've been holding all your emotions in for decades.
Took me a week to get up to the point where I could sit alone with myself and eat and it showed me a lot and showed me what I had to do in the first steps that I needed to take to rewrite all those habits...from the grocery store to the drive-thru to preparing my dinners. Everything had to change.
And I didn’t know how to make that happen, so it took being led. I'm going to tell you right now, you're working at the capacity of your capabilities. You're trying to change this through your behaviors and habits, but it needs to be addressed in your mind!
You need to reprogram your subconscious beliefs about yourself. This isn’t about dieting, it is about reprogramming your subconscious, and that takes a Cosmic Valkyrie.
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